I approach grief from a transpersonal, or Soul, perspective. We won’t fix or change it (more likely it will change you). Instead, with tenderness and love, we will go down into the depths of your sorrow and become intimately familiar with the dark terrain.
And there’s no doubt, grief WILL take you to the depths. The edge of what you think you can handle. The underworld of everything you previously knew to be true. Grief is feral and unrelenting. It’s fucking hard—and that’s putting it lightly. That’s why we’ll do it together, in connection with each other and the more-than human world.
Grieving is also often isolating because dominant culture has no idea how to deal with loss and sorrow. Domesticated society is death phobic and grief illiterate. So most people fetishize happiness, and those grieving are asked to move on privately and quietly. We’re supposed to pretend we’re okay, when nothing feels okay.
You don’t have to pretend with me, you get to be heartbroken, confused, angry, grateful, overwhelmed, lost, joyous, wild, anxious, outraged—we’ll go wherever grief takes you.
As I’ve worked with grief, I’ve come to see that it’s everywhere. We’re all grieving—it’s a part of our work as beings on this planet at this time. Sometimes we’ve just lost someone or something distinctive and personal through death or transition. Other times we’re feeling the heaviness of living in a disconnected, domesticated, and dominating society.
The further we go into our individual grief, the more we’re lead into the communal, collective grief. Grief for the destruction of the planet and loss of nature (Earth or eco-grief), grief for the profound injustices occurring everywhere every day, grief for the lack of culture and true community (losing our village), and grief for our ancestral wounds.
Grief opens us up to the fullness of our being, and we’re not meant to go through it alone; we never were. We need to feel cared for, loved, and held, when we’re grieving. We need a community—a village—to show up and see us, welcome us, thank us. We need to know the grief work we’re doing is important. Because it is, especially in these transitional times.
Author and activist bell hooks wrote, “To be loving is to be open to grief, to be touched by sorrow, even sorrow that is unending.” As collapse continues, and the pace of loss accelerates, our grief grows wider and deeper, it IS unending. Which is why we need each other now more than ever. I’m glad you’ve made your way to my work (our work). I’m glad we’re grieving in this world together.